Be the bigger person and let this go. I am fine with him make his bad choices. I was just looking for advice on how to handle the situation especially holidays where we might meet. I could care less if she has changed, I still want nothing to do with her. I knew this probably wasn't the place to go for good advice.
I just wanted some insight on how someone else might handle the situation. Then go into the other room if it's too much for you. Apparently you are because if you weren't you would not care at all if she was even in the room.
I'd venture to guess it's the "first love" breakup that you never got over. It didn't end the way YOU wanted it to.
Absolutely do not give up future family gatherings because your brother is dating a high school flame. You would be giving her too much power in your life. My brother is dating my ex Reply from K on Aug 12 at And if my sister still decided to pursue the relationship despite me asking her not to, I think that would cause a rift in our relationship.
You know you are not happy with their relationship but don't let them see it. Bite your tongue and try to be happy whenever you are around them.
Don't avoid family vacations, go! If you don't then this makes you look bad.
I had remembered that he had never gotten to explore the area, so I invited him. And if my sister still decided to pursue the relationship despite me asking her not to, I think that would cause a rift in our relationship. Bite your tongue and try to be happy whenever you are around them. Started with my oldest. If I take a utilitarian approach I would consider everyone I am affecting equally, and do what is best for the majority and in that case, I would harm one person my brother and do what's best for the majority me and her.
Your ex and brother may start thinking you are still in love with her so don't give them the satisfaction of thinking that. This ex of yours sounds as if she loves creating dramas so she is probably waiting for it to start with you. That way she gets to see trouble being created between two brothers and on top of that, she will knock it into your brothers head that you are still in love with her.
As I said, don't give her the satisfaction. Sounds silly but put yourself in a situation where you do not like your boss.
You have no choice BUT to be polite and pretend to be sincere right? So, when you are around your brother and your ex, put yourself in that scenario. See it as a role play!
As I said above, due to your relationship with your brother you can not avoid there presence, so, you need to learn to deal with it and hopefully when they know they are not getting to you, you may just start to see the cracks starting. Discussion closed - why not create your own thread?
No, it is not wrong, as long as you talk openly with your brother about it. Don't get me Ex-Boyfriends and Ex-Girlfriends · Dating Can I date my ex's brother?. We broke up because she moved away for four years, but when she returned, my brother immediately told her he was interested.
Create thread Related Threads. Then, it started becoming a problem that I had dated his brother. However, he kept texting me. He told me that he wanted to be with me one day.
This time, he makes her his girlfriend and cuts me off completely. All details spared…I got screwed. I opened up to you, more than I ever had to anyone. You knew how I never felt like I was enough for someone. I fell deeper in love with you than I ever had with your brother. I hate to admit that after how things ended and the way you treated me…I would still run back to you in a heartbeat.
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